Al’adun da yakamata Goggon Amarya tayi jima’i da Ango dan gwada karfinsa

Wataƙila kuna da ra’ayin cewa matsayin inna ita ce ƙaunata da kuma yi mata jagora ga ear uwarta ta hanyar zama aminiyarta ga ear uwarta musamman abubuwan da ba za ta iya rabawa ga mahaifiyarta ba. Koyaya, don ƙabilar Banyakole na Uganda, aikin inna ya wuce yin nasiha kawai.

Mutanen Banyakole wadanda kuma ake kira da kabilar Ankole mazauna Masarautar Bantu ce wacce ta samo asali tun daga karni na 15. Tana cikin Kudu maso Yammacin Uganda, gabas da Tafkin Edward, masarautar da Sarki Mugabe ke mulki an san ta da haƙƙin aure na musamman.

Auren Banyakole

Aure a cikin wannan al’ada yana da mahimmancin gaske yayin da iyaye ke samun farin ciki da alfahari daga auren ‘ya’yansu. Bisa ga al’adar Banuakole, idan yarinya ta kai shekara takwas ko tara, aikin inna ne ta gyara ta don rayuwar iyali. Goggon tana koya mata duk wani abu daya kamata ta sani game da matsayinta na mace amma mafi mahimmanci, a matsayin matar aure.

Budurci a cikin wannan al’ada ana girmama shi sosai don haka dole ne ‘yan mata su kaurace wa yin jima’i kafin aure. Kuma idan aka gano yarinya ba budurwa ba ce kafin aure, to za ta fuskanci hukuncin kisa ko yanke mata hukunci daga al’umma.

Bugu da ƙari, mutanen Ankole suna ɗaukar siraran siradi mara kyau. A wurinsu, kitse mai dadi ce kawai. Don haka lokacin da ‘yan mata suka kai shekaru takwas da tara, ana bukatar su bi ta hanyar yin kitso inda ake ciyar da su da karfi, gero, naman shanu, da madara. Ana yin wannan galibi don hanzarta ƙaruwar nauyin ‘yan mata don su sami damar jawo hankalin miji.

Auren bonyokole

Auren Banyakole ya ƙunshi shagulgula da dama ciki har da lokacin Biyan kyauta da aka sani da “Kuhingira” inda dangi da abokan amarya ke gabatar mata da kyaututtuka kamar shanu da sauran kayan abinci da za ta kai gidanta na aure. Bayan haka, bayan kwanaki 10, ana aiwatar da wata al’ada wacce ake kira Okukoza Omunuriro. Ibadar ta hada da amarya da kunna wutarta na farko a cikin sabon dakin girkin ta.

 

A ranar daurin aure, ana shirya biki a gidan amarya inda mahaifin zai yanka bijimi yayin da a gidan ango kuma akwai wani biki na kammala auren. Amma da farko, dole ne a yi bikin gargajiya na karshe, bikin da ya kunshi gwaje-gwaje biyu da dole ne sai goggon amarya ta gudanar da shi.

Tunda budurci shine ma’aunin aure ga girlsan matan ƙabilar Banyakole, dole ne kowace amarya a gwada ta da inna don tabbatar da budurcinta kafin auren. Idan amarya ta wuce gwajin budurci, ana zaton ba ta da ilimin jima’i ko yadda za ta faranta wa sabon mijinta rai ta hanyar jima’i.

Don haka, gwaji na biyu ya shafi goggon amarya tana gwada ikon jima’i na ango ta hanyar yin lalata da shi. A yayin wannan aikin, ta kuma koyi duk dabarunsa na jima’i da kuma hanyoyin da aka fi so don ta iya ba wa ‘yarta kyauta da abubuwan nunawa game da abin da fata ke son jima’i. An yi amannar wannan don taimaka wa amarya don faranta wa mijinta rai a cikin auren.

 

Source : Historyofyesterday.com

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